Unschooling after Death
I had a few articles started for this. With Halloween just leaving, I was writing about unlimited candy! Then I had found some cool science experiments you can do with candy, so I was going to mention those. Cool stuff you can do with candy beside’s eat it? Awesome!
That will all have to wait though, because I’m feeling quite serious today. I opened my facebook yesterday and learned that an Unschooling dad had passed away. It would appear that he was posting about not feeling good and having a fever for a few days, but I read this morning that he also may have had a heart condition. He will truly be missed by many, reading the comments on his wall I am blown away by the size of his family.
I’ve seen this happen a few times now since we’ve started unschooling, this was the first unexpected death I have experienced. It can happen. So often, Unschooling relies on one income that if one parent were to suddenly pass on, it could potentially devastate the family. Not only because their parent is now gone, because the other parent suddenly needing to work and financially support the family. It’s a discussion that comes up in our household and we are working toward taking steps to be prepared. Death doesn’t always come with a warning.
It doesn’t matter if you are a traditional homeschooler or an Unschooler. The unique situation of being able to stay home with your children is something that doesn’t need to change if a parent dies. Here are some ideas:
- Life Insurance for the breadwinner: What will you do if the breadwinner of your family suddenly dies? Where will you get the money to be able to stay home with your children? I don’t care how you feel about insurance companies. A life insurance policy is a good idea for most families. There are many different plans, for many different situations. Call someone about it today. If you happen to be a healthy person and under 30 you can often lock in a low rate for the rest of your life.
- Life Insurance for the caretaker: On the other hand what will you do if the person who stays home with your children suddenly dies? How will you work *and* take care of them. A life insurance policy here as well could be a good idea for your family.
- Will: It is incredibly important to make sure that your wishes are properly documented in the event that you or your partner die. If it is not done correctly, there *is* a possibly that a court will not accept it. However, if both parents die, and the children are young and/or uninformed there is no one to fight for what you or they want if you don’t have a proper will.
- What if both parents suddenly die?
- Then what?
- Where will the children go?
I haven’t seen this situation happen to anyone I know, but that doesn’t mean it can’t or won’t. As unschoolers, I think it’s important to consider our children’s futures in the event they find themselves without parents. Unschoolers live a drastically different lifestyle than most families, and who they will live with if you are gone is an incredibly important decision. Please have this outlined in your will.
For us, we don’t want their lifestyle changed any more than it has to be if we aren’t here. We would always want them to be able to live in the freedom that they have now. Unschooling, with or without the label is the single most important thing to our family. If there is no other person, family member or friend that could raise your children the way you would want, then I think Unschooling families should started naming each other in their wills. Yes, I’m serious and there are families willing to be there for your children.
- If you have any other thoughts or ideas then please post them below.
- If you can help Unschooling families learn about life insurance please post below with contact info.
- If you can help Unschooling families draft a will or find someone who can, please leave your contact info.
- If I see any information on how to help the family of Ely Rodriguez, then I will get it posted here.
Until then, please communicate with your family. Death is no fun to talk about, but it’s no less important than any other subject. Your kids have so much say in their lives, that could all change in an instant.